I know we are all different.
That’s good, and I think it helps this world go ’round.
However, when someone at work told me I need to work on not being so passive, I got a little offended.
I guess I don’t see my passiveness as a bad thing. It is who I am, and I’m okay with it!
Someone who can relate to this is my sister (a.k.a. my clone). Her and I–no matter how far apart we live–are in constant connect through ESP. (There’s just no other explanation. 😉 )
We were talking the other day—not through ESP but on the phone—when I told her how I kind of got in trouble for being too passive at work. I didn’t necessarily “get in trouble,” but this person commented that I am too passive, and I need to work on this flaw of mine. When I was told her this, she immediately said a very similar thing happened to her at work (imagine that!).
We will both be the first to admit we are not outgoing people. We often will sit back at a social gatherings and “take it all in” rather than feel the need to be the “life of the party.” (This is definitely contingent upon who the people are, the size of the group, and topic of discussion.)
We would rather let those people who “need” to be the center of attention do their thing because we realize this is their source of energy.
What frustrated us the most about our situations was the fact that our bosses had a hard time accepting this trait and instead wanted us to change.
We understand the need to be a leader or step-up-to-the-plate at times (especially in a work situation), and we are definitely able to do that.
So to all those people who see our passiveness as a bad thing:
You see us as being passive, we see it as being nice!
We just want to be accommodating and not make life more complicated than it already is. We can go with the flow and won’t make a big deal out of something that doesn’t need to be a big deal! We will let those of you who are more outgoing than us have your limelight, and we will speak up if we feel strongly about something!
Craig and I are running a race tomorrow!
Wish us luck. . . . actually, wish Craig the most luck because I can’t remember the last time he ran!